EPISODE 126

The Pressure Isn’t the Problem — It’s the Wake-Up Call You’ve Been Avoiding

What if the tightness in your chest, the overwhelm in your brain, and the crushing weight of your to-do list aren’t symptoms of failure — but signs that the life you’ve built no longer fits who you really are?

Because here’s the thing most women like you never stop to consider:
Maybe you’re not the problem.
Maybe the system you’re surviving in is.

You’ve spent your life chasing the gold stars — the career, the kids, the curated home, the calendar filled with “shoulds.” You’re the responsible one, the strong one, the achiever. You’ve figured it out, held it down, kept it all running.

But behind the control is a woman who is tired.
Tired of over-functioning.
Tired of making it look easy.
Tired of carrying everyone else’s needs while quietly disconnecting from her own.

And now the pressure is boiling. Not just in your schedule — in your soul.

You feel it when you snap at your partner for breathing wrong.
You feel it when you spiral into indecision over the simplest choices.
You feel it when you lie awake at night wondering why you’re still not okay, even though you have everything you thought you wanted.

Let me be the one to say what you’ve known in your gut for a while now:

You weren’t meant to hold this much.

You weren’t designed to manage everyone’s emotions, control every outcome, and stay calm while the world around you feels like it’s crumbling.

That kind of pressure isn’t sustainable — and it isn’t sacred.

It’s a distortion of your power. A misuse of your gifts.
And if you’re not careful, it will bleed you dry.

But here’s the reframe that changes everything:
The pressure isn’t here to destroy you. It’s here to wake you up.

It’s the sacred moment where your body, your mind, and your spirit all scream in unison: Something has to change.

That feeling in your chest isn’t weakness — it’s wisdom.
That mental fog isn’t failure — it’s feedback.
That inner pull toward something deeper? That’s your truth calling.

You are not here to be everything to everyone.

You are here to reclaim your energy. To reset your boundaries.
To pour into the things that actually matter to you — and let the rest go without apology.

You get to stop performing.
You get to stop bleeding yourself dry in the name of being “enough.”
You get to stop carrying the world like it’s your personal responsibility to save it.

There is another way. And you already know it.

Your peace. Your power. Your presence. That’s what’s waiting for you on the other side of this pressure — if you’re willing to stop ignoring the call.

So here’s your invitation:
Take 30 minutes today. Go for a walk. Sit in your car. Plug in your headphones.
And listen. To yourself. To your body. To the message behind the pressure.

Because your nervous system isn’t lying.
It’s leading.

And if this resonates in your bones, then don’t do this alone.

Join me for Liberation: From Pressure to Power, a free 90-minute masterclass happening Thursday, July 31s at 6pm MST.

This isn’t just another motivational Zoom call. This is a transformational experience for high-achieving, perfectionistic women who are secretly unraveling — and ready to come home to themselves.

You’ll learn how to stop spiraling, start regulating, and reconnect with the woman beneath the pressure.

Because the pressure was never meant to bury you.
It was meant to birth you.

Save your seat now.

Take care of yourself and there for each other!

XO, Brooke Jean

    • Why the pressure you feel isn’t random — it’s a portal of creation

    • How high-achieving women confuse stress with success

    • The hidden cost of trying to do it all perfectly, all the time

    • Physical symptoms Nicole may be ignoring (brain fog, rashes, tension, fatigue)

    • Mental spirals, intrusive thoughts, and emotional overwhelm

    • Why even “positive habits” like over-planning or perfecting can be self-sabotage

    • How women take on emotional responsibility for everyone

    • The empath’s dilemma: feeling everything without burning out

    • Naming the unconscious roles and burdens you’ve been carrying since childhood

    • The fork in the road: avoid and numb or choose self-leadership

    • Why burnout doesn’t mean failure — it means misalignment

    • The bold call to reconfigure your energy and reclaim your life

    • Why “everything is important” is a lie we’ve been sold

    • The freedom of choosing presence over perfection

    • Redefining success based on your actual values, not society’s scripts

    • You can care deeply without making everything your responsibility

    • The myth that being a good woman means being endlessly available

    • Learning to hold space without losing yourself in the process

    • What becomes possible when you stop bleeding energy

    • The invitation to shift from martyrdom to magnetism

    • Your power is sacred — and it’s time to use it on you

CONTINUING THE CONVERSATION

I hope that you’ll join me in this movement, and that you can authentically reconnect with who you really are. That’s where your essence and your gems really lie.

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